Like the tradition has been, you and
your husband must have said “for better
and for worse” while taking your marital
vows, but there are certain things that
your man should not catch you doing –
more like, you shouldn’t be doing. In
case you still insist and want to test
your hubby’s unconditional love for you,
do these following things in front of
him… at your own risk.
Don’t take your personal matters to
Avoid messages on Facebook and other
platforms like, “Want a pet or let’s have
a baby?” Rather have a one-on-one
conversation at home. You might
embarrass him by forcing his hand
when he is not ready to commit to that
decision of yours.
It’s not as if you’re on the pitch
cheerleading a whole team alone. Learn
how to use a more reasonable tone to
get your point across. Shouting down
the building could only make things
worse. I mean, screaming once in a
while for venting out frustration is fine,
but making it a norm might raise the
Overstuff your mouth while eating
This one is funny, and a lot of us do it,
but remember the table manners your
mother, father and teacher taught you;
they were for a reason. If you are too
hungry to keep your food intake in
check, go ahead and indulge and try not
to look too embarrassed about it. After
all, it is your house too.
Put on shape-wear
Shape wears are quite nice to hide or
show off a ‘fake’ body structure when
you’re ‘out there’, but to your husband,
every time you look sexy in that clingy
dress, he might wonder whether it is
really you or your slimming intimates
doing the trick. You need him to accept
you for who you are – right?
Stalking an Ex
You may be sending out the wrong
signal that you’ve not gotten over your
ex even though you’re in another
relationship. The past should be left
behind; I’m not saying you can’t be
friends with your ex, but don’t make it
your duty to know all his moves and
whereabouts. You don’t want your
husband to have nightmares thinking
you might be sneaking behind him.
Scream at a waiter, driver, maid etc.
This behaviour paints a picture that you
cannot control your temper. You really
don’t want your husband to think that
all the niceness you project around him
is a put-on just to impress him.
Giving away your secrets
Some people might not agree with me
on this one, but I dare say that you
don’t in the name of transparency or
guilt, tell your husband all your secrets.
You really don’t know how much your
husband can handle, so push easy. The
air of mystery is always alluring, but
don’t take it too far.
Hiding that period mood swing
There is no point pretending that you
are fine when you are indeed not. Be
sincere and let him know that you might
have mood swings and feel sluggish
during ‘that time’ of the month. So, that
he won’t be wondering why you’re
Always engaging him in your gossip
Some girlie pastimes are better with
girlfriends than your husband. You
might come across as ‘shallow’ or
‘bitchy’ if every time you use your
hubby as your sounding board for
emotional venting. Call your girlfriends,
especially when your husband is not
there to interrupt the gist.
Being mean to a child
Trust me, no man wants to be with a
mean woman; especially when the
woman is always mean to children or
enjoys to make children cry. It can be
worse if your hubby loves children and
both of you are yet to have any.
Biting your fingernails or toenails in
This habit has to do with both sexes,
but if you have a habit of biting your
nails and he doesn’t, you may want to
keep it confined within the bathroom
otherwise you just might put him off.
Biting the toe nails would require some
yoga skill; and you don’t want to let
him catch you doing this.
Put him down on where he comes from
Remember that your husband, just like
you, had a root that he can never lose
himself from. Therefore, never, try to
enter a losing battle especially when it
comes to you versus his family. Try and
accomadate him and his family, the
same way you expect him to treat
Leaving the bathroom door open
Doors were built for a reason.
Everything that happens in the
bathroom, should stay in the bathroom
– be it trashing the sanitary napkins or
disposing your waste; just do it behind
Lose control when you are drunk
From experience, I can tell you that
always getting drunk is not the most
romantic thing to your husband, like
some women think. Alcohol can make
you lose control and puke around the
house. He’s probably there to take care
of you, but don’t test his limits.
Brushing your teeth outside the
Brushing your teeth is good, but not
outside the bathroom. It is so not sexy
to be carrying a brush in your mouth
around the house in the morning. This
behaviour can irritate your partner.
Forgetting your manners
Truthfully, burping and passing gas may
are natural causes even when you are
with your hubby. The most important
thing is to show some respect when you
carry out any of these actions. Your
inability to say ‘excuse me’ shows
serious lack of grooming at your end.
Flirting with someone else
Never go over the top to make your
husband jealous or question your trust.
It’s never cool to make your partner feel
insecure or insignificant. You are
married to him for a reason, don’t
destroy your marriage because of
people who are envious of what you
share with your husband.
Cutting him off
It is rude to cut him off mid-sentence
unless he is ranting or you are in a
hurry. There are polite ways to let him
calm down and listen, instead of cutting
him off and adding fuel to the matter.
Cutting him off can also give out the
wrong message that you are not
interested in what he has to say.
Display of affection when his boss is
You might want to show what a
beautiful bond you both share with your
husband, but don’t take it too far. You
might just end up embarrassing him and
goof up his chances of promotion. You
don’t know if his boss is having serious
marital issues and then you’ll get him in
Comparing scores in public
Be careful the way you share stuffs
about your past relationships with your
husband and people around you. You
don’t want the gist to get to your in-
laws or relatives, as they may turn
around to point fingers at you and
asking justifications from your husband.